I'm continuing to notice what seems to be a rising interest in LGBT-friendly theology among Mormons. This isn't necessarily a bad thing. I like theology as much as the next guy. But there is, I believe, a far greater, far more urgent need for LGBT spirituality.
Some people will object: But gay, lesbian, bi and transgender people feel excluded from the Church. Until we have a theology of inclusion, we won't know how to have a spirituality.
But here's the thing. Theology is, by definition, man-made. At its best, it represents human efforts to clear away the debris of false reasoning, to better enable us to appreciate and receive God's revelation of himself. That's at its best. At its worst, it becomes a form of philosophical wishful thinking, and it adds to the debris more than it clears away. Speculative theology ought to be spurned by all thinking believers.
Theology is and always should be secondary. It should be the servant of doctrine and faith, never the master.
The way I would boil this down into really simple terms is this: If we aren't praying daily; if we aren't prayerfully studying the scriptures; if we're not striving to become better, more patient, more loving; if we're not doing something concrete to make the world a better place -- feeding the hungry, caring for widows and orphans, housing the homeless, defending the defenseless; if we're not actively seeking God; if we are not gathering and worshiping with other believers; if we don't have some sort of spiritual practice or discipline in our lives; we have no business doing theology. Or what theology we do do won't be worth a damn.
We desperately need a gay Mormon movement. And in order to have one that can actually accomplish anything of worth, we need gays who pray. We need an LGBT movement that is earnestly seeking God. God needs to be at the center of our lives, and love of God needs to be at the center of our movement. If we so order our lives and our efforts, we will be blessed.
Until we do, theology will just be an intellectual exercise and a distraction. It won't save us. It can't help us.
If we want inspiration from God -- revelation even -- to help us understand why we are gay, and how our gayness fits into God's scheme of things, we first have to have a relationship with God. And the only way to do that is the old fashioned way: through faith, hope, love, hard work and patience. We may have to wait a long time in faith before God will give us what we so long for theologically. But I trust that if we put first things first, when those understandings eventually come, it will be well worth the wait. And the work we've done will enable us to receive what is given.