tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018387523779914474.post2641975772163782938..comments2023-12-31T05:01:58.031-06:00Comments on Young Stranger: The Naked TruthJohn Gustav-Wrathallhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03557940681381951271noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018387523779914474.post-46878326389404856472010-05-15T18:26:22.947-05:002010-05-15T18:26:22.947-05:00If you know you are going into a relationship wher...<i>If you know you are going into a relationship where sex will not play a very large (if any) role, I wonder if that would make a difference?</i><br /><br />The make-or-break problem with mismatched sexual orientations isn't the asymmetric desire for sex (A wants it more than B does). Instead, the crucial problem is the inability to form a durable pair bond in such a relationship (i.e., evidenced by a profound and enduring feeling of loneliness). At least this is what I found in my own experience and from talking to others in this situation.<br /><br />Going in to a marriage with low expectations for sexual relations does nothing to prepare you for the inability to develop emotional intimacy in the long term.MoHoHawaiihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15086670779804942122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018387523779914474.post-8200670056329272702010-05-15T16:13:37.654-05:002010-05-15T16:13:37.654-05:00Anonymous - thanks! I do wonder what difference i...Anonymous - thanks! I do wonder what difference it makes going into marriage if your expectations are tempered. If you know you are going into a relationship where sex will not play a very large (if any) role, I wonder if that would make a difference? Of course, I suppose it would still be extremely difficult, if only because of the imbalance of sexual desire.John Gustav-Wrathallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03557940681381951271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018387523779914474.post-75911572421130611252010-05-15T12:49:44.666-05:002010-05-15T12:49:44.666-05:00I chanced on to your blog through the affirmation ...I chanced on to your blog through the affirmation web site. I could spend hours going over your posts.<br /><br />So did Ty Mansfield ever get married? Wish I would have seen the post from more than a year ago when the debate was going on. I'm a married (15 years, 5 kids) gay man and I can attest that one should never go into a marriage when one partner is gay thinking everything will be all right. I told my wife before we got married that I had "been gay" but was now over it. I thought over time my "gayness" would diminish and I'd end up being an almost normal LDS married man. (Evergreen needs to be banned). Last August I had a near mental breakdown. Since that time, my wife and I have had some excruciatingly difficult discussions. We are still married and highly motivated to make it work. I cannot say with certainty that it will, but I do know that it is extremely difficult. Like it or not, sex is a huge part of any union. You simply cannot have a true marriage relationship without it. My story is complex and would take up a ton of space, so for now thanks for your insights.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018387523779914474.post-42049336106291358452010-04-23T10:31:19.020-05:002010-04-23T10:31:19.020-05:00I remain incredibly in awe of your vivid, detailed...I remain incredibly in awe of your vivid, detailed dreams and your ability to interpret them and resolve their meaning in such appropriate ways! <br /><br />I couldn't help but think of you being "naked" in the Church, exposed to your ward as a gay man, and yet you remain there as it is the right thing for you to do, to help and serve and offer assistance and feel the spirit and confirmation that what you are doing is right, despite being exposed... and even sacrifice full acceptance for being naked among fellow clothed saints...Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06159223254071653666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018387523779914474.post-45283231045283391722010-04-17T00:10:41.322-05:002010-04-17T00:10:41.322-05:00I used to have "naked" dreams all the ti...I used to have "naked" dreams all the time; I'd leave the house on an errand of some kind, having made a seemingly rational decision to go nude that day, like nude or khakis, or jeans, all equal. Then halfway through I'd become aware it was a terrible mistake, everyone was staring, I needed to go home now. end of dream.<br /><br />But I've not had that dream for several years. Why?<br />I wonder if it's my age-related declining testosterone levels, or more symbolically, now that I have "exposed" myself in a blog, anonymous though it be, I don't need to expose myself literally.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018387523779914474.post-74700662520213408472010-04-16T22:36:03.241-05:002010-04-16T22:36:03.241-05:00Hahhaa...
I laughed at the part where Hollywood w...Hahhaa...<br /><br />I laughed at the part where Hollywood write the Gospels.<br /><br />It's really true...<br /><br />^_^Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018387523779914474.post-41274987050804162002010-04-16T06:03:07.919-05:002010-04-16T06:03:07.919-05:00What a wonderful post. Yes, the good, hard work of...What a wonderful post. Yes, the good, hard work of people who do the right thing without regard for their own personal safety is often not recognized. Perhaps that's what it's like to be a pioneer. The first ones into the wilderness meet with hardship and sometimes early death. It is only future generations who benefit materially from the sacrifice of those who came before them. <br /><br />As far as sexuality and the Restoration movement is concerned, LGBT people have been waiting at least a generation for things to change. Maybe the baby (the Christ child?) symbolizes the hope for future generations, that your hard work will be recognized and take on a life of its own. -- Bryan/NLAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com